I related to the moment of clarity and the understanding that you had entered the realm of split households and the final dissolution of the dream. Hopefully you and your ex-husband remained humane, balanced and did the very best you could. Having been through this, my one consolation is the level of maturity and selflessness I was able to show after the fact. It sounds like you were capable of that. In terms of the writing choices, I did think the moment of clarity and the subtlety of your final question gave the piece a thoughtful quality that will make it stick in our minds.